A big part of growing up is learning through experience to evaluate the people in your life, along with those just coming into it. This also means that you must assess the relationships you have with them and be able to weed out the ones you know are not worth your time. Some people are worth the effort, others need to be dealt with like dirty old bandaids. Even if it hurts you, it needs to go.
I think many of us become so accustomed to the people in our lives that we tend to forget to stop and evaluate whether or not they are actually positive influences. Sometimes we allow ourselves to get so close to certain people that we lose our ability to see them for who they really are. Whether we want to believe it or not, the company we keep has the the power to affect us in ways which aren’t always perceptible. With that being said, to not take the time to stand back and survey those closest to you would be to do yourself a great disservice. If you aspire to live a positive life, then you must first start by choosing to surround yourself with those who make you happy.
It is no secret that negative people certainly have a negative effect on the people around them. There is an idiom that often comes to mind when I am assessing the people in my life and their impact on me: “You are what you eat.” In very much the same way that a good diet is crucial to achieving good health, having good people around you is key to living a better life. Humans, in general, tend to be very susceptible to their surroundings. It is because we have such a tendency to be so impressionable that we often see people adopting the attitudes of those around them.
Try to imagine what it would be like if you were the only optimist stranded on a desert island full of pessimists. It is only a matter of time before it becomes difficult for even you to maintain a positive and healthy outlook when you are constantly surrounded by negative people who only look for the worst in any given situation. The problem with negativity is that it’s very easy to get caught up in it when it’s all around you. Its oppression can become a drain on your energy and can even begin to wear on your self-esteem, which, in turn, can cause you to become a more negative person yourself.
Learn to recognize the people that are detrimental to your well-being. Start focusing on the more positive things in your life and work towards building yourself up in such a way that makes you invulnerable to the negative attitudes of others. You are the only one that can choose to make your life more satisfying and enjoyable. The question is, will you do it? Or will you allow your happiness to be dictated by everyone else?